We of Overeaters Anonymous have made a discovery. At the very first meeting
we attended, we learned that we were in the clutches of a dangerous illness, and
that willpower, emotional health and self-confidence, which some of us had once
possessed, were no defense against it.
The OA recovery program is patterned after that of Alcoholics Anonymous. We
use AA's twelve steps and twelve traditions, changing only the words "alcoholic"
and "alcohol" to "food" and "compulsive overeating."
As our personal stories attest, the twelve-step program of recovery works as
well for compulsive overeaters as it does for alcoholics.
Can we guarantee you this recovery? The answer is simple. If you will
honestly face the truth about yourself and the illness; if you keep coming back
to meetings to talk and listen to other recovering compulsive overeaters; if you
will read our literature and that of Alcoholic Anonymous with an open mind; and
most important, if you are willing to rely on a power greater than yourself for
direction in your life, and to take the twelve steps to the best of your
ability, we believe you can indeed join the ranks of those who recover.
To remedy the emotional, physical, and spiritual illness of compulsive
overeating we offer several suggestions, but keep in mind that the basis of this
program is spiritual, as evidenced by the twelve steps.
We are not a "diet and calories" club. We do not endorse any particular plan
of eating. Once we become abstinent, the preoccupation with food diminishes and
in many cases leaves us entirely. We then find that, to deal with our inner
turmoil, we have to have a new way of thinking, of acting on life rather than
reacting to it - in essence, a new way of living.
From this vantage point, we began the twelve-step program of recovery, moving
beyond the food and the emotional havoc to a fuller living experience. As a
result of practicing these steps, the symptom of compulsive overeating is
removed on a daily basis, achieved through the process of surrendering to
something greater than ourselves; the more total our surrender, the more freely
realized our freedom from food obsession.
"But I'm too weak. I'll never make it!" Don't worry, we have all thought and
said the same thing. The amazing secret to the success of this program is just
that: weakness. It is weakness, not strength that binds us to each other and to
a higher power and somehow gives us the ability to do what we cannot do alone.We have found that the reasons for this illness are unimportant. What
deserves the attention of the still-suffering compulsive overeater is this:
There is a proven, workable method by which we can arrest our illness.
If we are painstaking about working our program, these are the amazing
promises that will come true for us:
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We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the
door on it.
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We will comprehend the word serenity and we will
know peace.
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No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we
will see how our experience can benefit others.
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That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will
disappear.
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We will lose interest in selfish things and gain
interest in our fellows.
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Self-seeking will slip away.
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Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will
change.
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Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave
us.
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We will intuitively know how to handle situations
which used to baffle us.
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We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They
are being fulfilled among us - sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will
always materialize if we work for them.We are going to know a new freedom and a new
happiness.
The Twelve Traditions are the means by which OA remains
unified in a common cause. These Twelve Traditions are to the groups what the
Twelve Steps are to the individual. They are suggested principles to ensure the
survival and growth of the many groups that compose Overeaters
Anonymous.
The Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous
The Twelve Steps are the heart of the OA recovery program. They offer a new way of life that enables the compulsive eater to live without the need for excess food.
The ideas expressed in the Twelve Steps, which originated in Alcoholics Anonymous, reflect practical experience and application of spiritual insights recorded by thinkers throughout the ages. Their greatest importance lies in the fact that they work! They enable compulsive eaters and millions of other Twelve-Steppers to lead happy, productive lives. They represent the foundation upon which OA is built.
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We admitted we were powerless over food — that our
lives had become unmanageable.
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Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves
could restore us to sanity.
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Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to
the care of God as we understood Him.
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Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of
ourselves.
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Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human
being the exact nature of our wrongs.
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Were entirely ready to have God remove all these
defects of character.
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Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
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Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became
willing to make amends to them all.
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Made direct amends to such people wherever possible,
except when to do so would injure them or others.
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Continued to take personal inventory and when we were
wrong, promptly admitted it.
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Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our
conscious contact with God as we understood
Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry
that out.
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Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these
Steps, we tried to carry this message to compulsive overeaters and to practice
these principles in all our affairs.
Permission to use the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous for adaptation granted by AA World Services, Inc.
The Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous
Like the Twelve Steps,
the Twelve Traditions have their origins in Alcoholics Anonymous. These
Traditions describe attitudes which those early members believed were important
to group survival.
The Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous
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Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery
depends upon OA unity.
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For our group purpose there is but one ultimate
authority — a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our
leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
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The only requirement for OA membership is a desire to
stop eating compulsively.
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Each group should be autonomous except in matters
affecting other groups or OA as a whole.
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Each group has but one primary purpose — to carry its
message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers.
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An OA group ought never endorse, finance or lend the OA
name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money,
property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
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Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting,
declining outside contributions.
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Overeaters Anonymous should remain forever
non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
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OA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may
create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they
serve.
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Overeaters Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues;
hence the OA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
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Our public relations policy is based on attraction
rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level
of press, radio, films, television and other public media of
communication.
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Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all these
Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
Permission to use the Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics
Anonymous for adaptation granted by AA World Services, Inc.
Tools of Recovery:
In working Overeaters Anonymous' Twelve-Step
program of recovery from compulsive overeating, we have found a number of tools
to assist us. We use these tools regularly to help us achieve and maintain
abstinence.
A Plan of Eating
Sponsorship
Meetings
Telephone
Writing
Literature
Anonymity
Service
In Overeaters
Anonymous (OA), abstinence is "the action of refraining from compulsive
eating." Many of us have found that we cannot abstain from compulsive
eating unless we use some or all of OA's eight tools of recovery.
A Plan of Eating
As a tool, a plan of eating helps us to abstain from
eating compulsively. Having a personal plan of eating guides us in our dietary
decisions, as well as defines what, when, how, where and why we eat. It
is our experience that sharing this plan with a sponsor or another OA member is
important.
There are no
specific requirements for a plan of eating; OA does not endorse or recommend
any specific plan of eating, nor does it exclude the personal use of one. (See
the pamphlets Dignity
of Choice and A Plan of
Eating for more information.) For specific dietary or nutritional guidance,
OA suggests consulting a qualified health care professional, such as a
physician or dietician. Each of us develops a personal plan of eating based on
an honest appraisal of his or her own past experience; we also have come to
identify our current individual needs, as well as those things which we should
avoid.
Although
individual plans of eating are as varied as our members, most OA members agree
that some plan — no matter how flexible or structured — is necessary.
This tool helps
us deal with the physical aspects of our disease and helps us achieve physical
recovery. From this vantage point, we can more effectively follow OA's
Twelve-Step program of recovery and move beyond the food to a happier,
healthier and more spiritual living experience.
Sponsorship
Sponsors
are OA members who are living the Twelve Steps
and Twelve Traditions to the best of their
ability. They are willing to share their recovery with other members of the
Fellowship and are committed to abstinence.
We ask a sponsor
to help us through our program of recovery on all three levels: physical,
emotional and spiritual. By working with other members of OA and sharing their
experience, strength and hope, sponsors continually renew and reaffirm their
own recovery. Sponsors share their program up to the level of their own
experience.
Ours is a
program of attraction: find a sponsor who has what you want, and ask that
person how he or she is achieving it. A member may work with more than one
sponsor and may change sponsors at will.
Meetings
Meetings are gatherings of two or more compulsive
overeaters who come together to share their personal experience, and the
strength and hope OA has given them. Though there are many types of meetings,
fellowship with other compulsive overeaters is the basis of them all. Meetings
give us an opportunity to identify and confirm our common problem and to share
the gifts we receive through this program.
Telephone
The telephone
helps us share one-to-one and avoid the isolation which is so common among us.
Many members call other OA members and their own sponsors daily. As a part of
the surrender process, it is a tool with which we learn to reach out, ask for
help and extend help to others. The telephone also provides an immediate outlet
for those hard-to-handle highs and lows we may experience.
Writing
In addition to
writing our inventories
and the list of people we have harmed, most of us have found that writing has
been an indispensable tool for working the Steps. Further, putting our thoughts
and feelings down on paper, or describing a troubling incident, helps us to
better understand our actions and reactions in a way that is often not revealed
to us by simply thinking or talking about them. In the past, compulsive eating
was our most common reaction to life. When we put our difficulties down on
paper, it becomes easier to see situations more clearly and perhaps better
discern any necessary action.
Literature
We study and
read OA-approved pamphlets; OA-approved books, such as Overeaters
Anonymous, Second Edition, The Twelve
Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous and For Today;
and we read Lifeline, our
monthly magazine on recovery. We also study the book Alcoholics
Anonymous, referred to as the "Big Book," to understand and
reinforce our program. Many OA members find that when read daily, the
literature further reinforces how to live the Twelve Steps. Our OA literature and the AA
"Big Book" are ever-available tools which provide insight into our
problem of eating compulsively, strength to deal with it, and the very real
hope that there is a solution for us.
Anonymity
Anonymity, referred to in Traditions Eleven and Twelve, is a tool that
guarantees that we will place principles before personalities. The protection
anonymity provides offers each of us freedom of expression and safeguards us
from gossip. Anonymity
assures us that only we, as individual OA members, have the right to make our
membership known within our community. Anonymity at the level of press, radio,
films and television means that we never allow our faces or last names to be
used once we identify ourselves as OA members. This
protects both the individual and the Fellowship.
Within the
Fellowship, anonymity means that whatever we share with another OA member will
be held in respect and confidence. What we hear at meetings should remain
there. However, anonymity must not be used to limit our effectiveness within
the Fellowship. It is not a break of anonymity to use our full names within our
group or OA service bodies. Also, it is not a break of anonymity to enlist
Twelfth-Step help for group members in trouble, provided we refrain from
discussing specific personal information.
Another aspect
of anonymity is that we are all equal in the Fellowship, whether we are
newcomers or seasoned long-timers. And our outside status makes no difference
in OA; we have no stars or VIPs. We come together simply as compulsive
overeaters.
Service
Carrying the
message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers is the basic purpose of
our Fellowship; therefore, it is the most fundamental form of service. Any form
of service—no matter how small—which helps reach a fellow sufferer adds to the
quality of our own recovery. Getting to meetings, putting away chairs, putting
out literature, talking to newcomers, doing whatever needs to be done in a
group or for OA as a whole are ways in which we give back what we have so
generously been given. We are encouraged to do what we can when we can. "A
life of sane and happy usefulness" is what we are promised as the result
of working the Twelve Steps. Service helps to fulfill that promise.
As OA's
responsibility pledge states: "Always to extend the hand and heart of OA
to all who share my compulsion; for this I am responsible."
Just for Today
Just for today I will
try to live through this day only and not tackle my whole life problem at once.
I can do something for 12 hours that would appal me if I felt that I had to keep
it up for a lifetime.
Just for today I will
be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that: "most folks
are as happy as they make up their minds to be."
Just for today I will
adjust myself to what is and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I
will take each day as it comes and fit myself to it.
Just for today I will
try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will
not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and
concentration.
Just for today I will
exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get
found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count; I will do at least two
things I don't want to do - just for exercise; I will not show anyone that my
feelings are hurt - they may be hurt but today I will not show it.
Just for today I will
be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low, act
courteously, criticise not one bit, not find fault with anything, and not try to
improve or regulate anybody but myself.
Just for today I will
have a programme. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save
myself from two pests - hurry and indecision.
Just for today I will
have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. During this half-hour, sometime,
I will try and get a better perspective of my life.
Just for today I will
be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to
believe that, as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.
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